To a sexual assualt victim this word is the furthest thing from their minds. The thought process is how can I forgive somebody who has put me through a living hell? How can I give them mercy when they didnt give me any? Even after you begged and pleaded with them to stop because they were hurting you. This was a thing of mind control. Not just your body but your mind because they wanted control over something in their own lives. The way to get them to lose control over your life is to forgive them. It’s backwards in concept but the more you hold on to it and the more you give them the satisfaction of controlling your mind the longer that control will remain there. You will not be able to move forward in your life spiritually or emotionally so until you forgive.  Declare your independence from the situation. Even through all of the belittling and low self-esteem you are worthy enough to walk in freedom. The freedom that God can give you through a heart of forgiveness and mercy.


Time to watch and pray

Time to watch and pray

In looking at the video my heart and my mind was totally vexed.  To see something of this nature going on in the church and the victim literally made to apologize for the wrongdoing that was done to her. This is one of the concepts I will be discussing in my book.

This video does refer to a particular denomination but I personally am not saying that this denomination is the only one having trouble with things of this nature. It is ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL denominations. I’m not saying that they are corrupt but it’s time to Watch and pray within this hour.

Sweet Surrender

Submission is the thing on the mind of an abuse victim because they are trying take control of their own lives from where their will was once torn.  It is hard to say, “God I surrender will to You” in the midst of dealing with feeling violated. It took me a long time to get to this point in my life because I felt like this as well. I found out that giving my will to God is where my healing began.  I tried so long on my own to  forget my abuse and tried to live my life normally but I could not. I had to recognize  I couldn’t go through this process alone.  You may ask how can God help me? I’m beyond help. The answer is no you are not. God is ready and willing to heal you but He is not going to do what other people have done to you int he past, which is violate your will and just take over and destroy you all over again. As a matter of fact, God created you with a free will. He wants to quiet the torment in your mind,  but you have to receive that healing.  It’s time to make a sweet surrender. One that will benefit you for the rest of your life.

A place for scorned royalty

This blog site is made especially for those who have been affected by sexual abuse in someway. This may not have  happened to you specifically but you might know someone. I am in the process of writing a book called I am Tamar. This book focuses on sexual  abuse in a biblical sense.  Most people see the word biblical and run in the other direction because they immediately think of someone judging them or trying to send them to hell for their wrongdoings. This is not what this is all about. This is to let you know that you are not alone. That there is healing for you in the midst of all of the emotions and the craziness going on in the world around you. I hope that you are blessed tremendously through this page. Also stop by the I am Tamar page on Facebook.